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Society is Moving too Fast

All Blacks Don't Cry

John Kirwan

John Kirwan

An interesting article from Sir John Kirwan – taken from his new book Stand By Me – written with two psychologists.

John Kirwan was an All Black at a young age, and made it big fast.  What no one realised was that the young man was having panic attacks and suffering from feelings of being inadequate, which left him wondering what was happening and on a downward spiral into depression.  In a sport like Rugby, you can’t afford to feel like you aren’t part of the team.

Sir John was knighted for his services to Mental Health.  I have read his book ‘All Blacks Don’t Cry” and he has become like a mentor for me.  Everyone’s journey is different, but he has been to the depths of the black hole and knows how hard it is to come back, but he has done it, and he wants to help others out there too.

This article, from the NZ Herald is about Society and how everything has to happen now.  Rush rush is all we seem to do, yet he is telling us that we need to slow down.  And kids need to learn how to cope and be ‘in the moment’ to help them in the future.  Interesting Article.

For more information or you want help with depression, check out www.depression.org.nz – John Kirwan will talk you through the steps you need to take.  :)

 

As a Door Shuts, a Window Opens?

C Mead final logoPhew.  It has been a rough road, but I have finally made it.  I got to the school holidays with my sanity intact.  Just as to how long, depends on lots of things.

Firstly, editing of Cursed Love seems to have taken forever, but I think its a good thing.  There are lots of additional dialogue to explain things further out, and to add more foreshadowing – at least I hope so.  I’m falling in love with my characters all over again, including Bradford – I like his thinking  :)  Once I have it done, will have a quick read through before checking in with my editor to see how her schedule looks.  all going well, it can go to my proofreader(s) and then I can start working on the cover details and the launch date.  I’m planning on the end of November, but if things don’t happen the way I expect, it will be early January 2015.  Christmas is traditionally a stressful time of year for me, so I don’t want to be trying to launch a book then too!

I haven’t written anything new on Beautiful Stranger, but I don’t expect to do so before the end of October.  I have two new chapters to add, and I keep having bits of conversation float through to me – Cat and Dom sparring with each other, because that is what they do.  I love their word fights, because it helps to build the tension between then and then one of them caves and gives in.  This is an exciting story, I can’t wait to get into it.

Another story bursting to get out is one about Parehe – Maori Forest Guardian Spirits – I came across this idea while walking a part of the

Doesn't this look like a hidey hole for a Parehe

Doesn’t this look like a hidey hole for a Parehe

Abel Tasman Track when I was in Golden Bay recently.  It will have to sit on the back burner and quietly bubble away because there is another story I want to write first – a runaway one that I want to start a new series with – about people running away from their problems, only to have to confront them again.  This was one that I plotted in one day, while walking the Abel Tasman National Park Walk in May this year.  It won’t be started until next year, but have some other stories I want to tickle up first – like Ice Planet (evil eyebrow wiggle!)

Now, as for doors slamming – work has now finished, and I am relieved.  I have a plan in place to keep me going over the next two weeks of the school holidays, including spending half the day with my son, however (and here is the window opening) my husband has arranged some work for me – unfortunately it isn’t local, and it is this week, while I have our son… I don’t know if our boy will like me working during the holidays, especially as I have promised to spend some time with him.  I think I will have to talk to him about maybe doing it next week, while sonny boy is at Nanna’s.

So, for now, it is full steam ahead on plans – a schedule to keep me busy and let me do everything I want, like spring cleaning the house, spending time with my boy, getting information on a newly formed sports group I am part of, and writing, and op shop and gardening etc etc.

Onwards and upwards.

Creating an Author Platform Week 11

Not even half way yet!  Lets get cracking.

Core ValuesThis week, we are looking at Adding Value, Creating Lists, Pitching a Guest Post, Being Helpful and Investing in Yourself.

No 41 – Have a look through your platform building endeavours so far and see if you can add value.  Contribute more, give more, help more, love more, mention others, mention yourself – more more more.  If you offer a free ebook on signing up to your email list – add something else too – a list of song’s to listen to, a piece about the inspiration behind the story – think about where you can improve or add something that others would be interested in.

No 42 – Create a list of 20 popular sites that accept your guest posts.  Read their guidelines on providing guest posts, and start writing.  Get yourself known and out there by providing posts on a range of subjects, say the subject of the book you are writing (in my case writing Romance set in NZ), why I wanted to write this story, etc.  Don’t be afraid to share your ideas and opinions.

No 43 – Pitch a guest post – take the post you wrote in the last idea – and actally submit it!  They can only say no, and if they say yes – take the opportunity with both hands.  When you get accepted, don’t forget to link your site to the post as well.

No 44 – Be helpful by sharing useful links or answer questions on social media.  Become a resource that people go to for help.  Give them answers to the problems that they have struck, or share experiences that you have had.  It might just help someone out of the rut they are in, or provide them with inspiration.

No 45 – invest in yourself.  This is your business, invest in it.  Get the right tools and resources to help you build your business.  Also sign up for classes, conferences, speaking engagements that will improve your skills in writing or business.  These will only strengthen your position and help you to develop a strong business model.

What I Won’t Be Watching…

My son decided one evening, while my husband was away, that he wanted to watch a program.  So he flicked over to the channel and we started watching it.  It was a program that I normally really enjoy.  And this was an episode where the lead character wished his ancestor had founded a town.  Lo and Behold, a gypsy came to the bar table and announced that his forefather had founded the city, not the person that it was traditionally told.  The story filtered into a “flashback dream” where the main character was dressed in 18th Century clothing on his way to marry a woman (played by his wife) and she was in a church with her father, discussing the merits of her affianced.

Here is where the story gets… interesting isn’t the right word.  The woman, dressed in the period with a low cut bodice, had been wondering why her fiance hadn’t arrived at the church yet, and her father replied, then asked “Can I touch your breast?”  Her answer was a vehement no.  I was shocked.  I just let it go, and more action took place before it came back to the woman and her father, and again he asked her.  She smacked his hand off her breast as she exclaimed “Father!”

If you didn’t recognise the show, then I shall tell you – it was an episode of Family Guy, and it was Peter and Lois Griffith.  This interaction between the father and daughter really upset me.  I’m not a prude, but there is a line that people do not cross, and incest is one of them.  And what the father wanted to do, was wrong, even if it was being roleplayed.

I immediately turned the channel over, much to my son’s annoyance, but it wasn’t right, and he didn’t get it, he thought it was funny.  What are we teaching our children these days?  This program was saying, it was okay to ask your daughter if you could touch her, and that no didn’t mean no!  Sick!

So its a cartoon – you say.  It is a cartoon aimed at adults, and yet my son loves watching it.  Why?  IT’S A CARTOON!  My son should not be subjected to this.  Yes, it was a cartoon, but should incest be seen on such a show?  Even if the main audience is adults, who would have found that funny?  I missed the point – was it supposed to be funny?

Maybe I am over-reacting to this – but I told my husband and he didn’t think that was appropriate either.  And he isn’t a prude either.  He reminded me that we used to watch the muppets when we were younger, and when we watch it now we are shocked by what is in it, but there was never anything about wanting to touch your daughter’s private parts!  Never!  And I have watched the muppets as an adult – who couldn’t resist the Muppet Show!  But there were moments of pure genius in there for kids as well, kids laughed at things that adults didn’t.  There is a difference.  The Muppets was made for children AND adults to watch.

How many women out there cried, because of that episode.  Who have been abused by their fathers, and seen this show, and more or less told that this was normal(ish) behaviour!  What is normal about that?  It is sordid and detestable.  Sorry Seth McFaralane, but you have lost points in my books.  I won’t be watching The Family Guy anymore.

Okay, rant over.  So why did I write about this in my mental health post?  Because it upset me and shocked me enough that I had to spend some time ruminating about it, except it wasn’t ruminating where the information got out of hand.  It was more my reaction to it.  I had to look at my reasoning behind the thought.  Was it rational?  Was it an over-reaction?  Was it a foundational thought – something that makes up my psyche?

It is something that makes up my psyche – I have a strong belief in woman having rights to their own bodies and having the right to say no and mean it.  Not repeatedly say no, but mean yes.  NO MEANS NO.  And incest is wrong.  I wouldn’t dream of letting my father touch me so intimately!  That is for my husband, NOT MY FATHER!

The Family GuyHaving gone through the rationalisation of my thought, I have found peace with the fact that it is okay for me to not like something, or not find something funny that others might have.  It is okay for me to have the opinions I have, and to share them, but I also have to be aware that others may not share my opinion.  I don’t care what people say.

Have you ever experienced something through a television show, or read something that made you react unexpectedly?  Let me know at catherine @ catherinemede.com, or comment below.

So from now on, even though the show was probably a one off, I won’t be watching Family Guy anymore, because – I just don’t want to see anything like that again.

The Lowdown on the Upside

Hi de hi campers, and welcome to all my new friends.  Don’t forget to sign up for my newsletter, as you will get exclusive information on the release of my book coming at the end of November – exclusive things like – blurb, cover release and special prices on the release of the eBook, pre-release exclusives and sneak previews.  Don’t delay, get in there now.

Now, for what is happening at the moment, life has been a rollercoaster of up and downs and loop-de-loops, but one more week at work and I will be free.  The first two weeks are school holidays and I intend to spend some time with my boy enjoying some “us” time.  I am actually looking forward to this, and perhaps some cycling and mini golf.

I have set a deadline for my edits on Cursed Love – the end of September.  I have been meandering around on the edits, because I really haven’t had time to breathe, let alone sort out what I want to do, so I plan on making at least half an hour a day where I concentrate solely on editing.  I like to print it out, make edits on the hard copy and then put them into my computer, which normally ends up with more edits.  I know it is double handling, but it works that way for me.  I really need to get this sorted so my editor, the ever lovely Cassie, to have another look through before I pass it onto my proofreader – Tee.  I am so thankful I have these lovely two ladies there to support me.  I have asked Dwell Design to create my book cover, and I can’t wait to get this part done so I can share that with my lovely supporters.

So exciting times are ahead, I can’t wait to share some of these things with you, so sign up – or be the last to know  :)

Creating an Authors Platform Week 10

Sorry its been a while, had some issues with the new site, and dates and times etc.  But hopefully I have things under control now.

Core ValuesSo we discussed in Creating an Authors Platform No 9 a lot of things, like Google Analytics, Organising Email Lists, Throat Grabbing Headlines, Call to Action at the end of posts, and revamping your About Page.  You may have noticed that I have sorted out my website, and only have three pages now.  I just wanted to simplify things, and have a separate page for those books that will be sold… when I eventually publish them.  And I now have a deadline, so I need to get my butt into gear and start finishing this Authors Platforms or I won’t get it finished before I have a finished book.

This week, we will be looking at Being Everywhere, Searching yourself, Engaging with Fans and Creating Link Love.

No 37 is about Being Everywhere.  You need to be where your readers are.  Use social media like Goodreads, wattpad, Amazon Author Central, Pinterest and Google+.  This is a very interesting point.  I use Pinterest, and I put pictures up there of the people whom I imagine are my characters.  I also sometimes put photos of settings on there too.  I have signed up for Amazon Author Central, Goodreads, but I haven’t used Wattpad or Google+ (or as Catherine Mede) anyway.  With a promotion coming up, I need to get myself out there and noticed, although the first part of the promotion will be about getting me noticed  :)  It will be interesting.  I also have a twitter account, click on all the links to go to my pages and check them out.

 

No 38 – Go search yourself.  Seriously, type in your name or your author name and see what happens. This is what I found… Catherine Mede – Google Search which is quite interesting.  Fortunately it is all me, or about me, I didn’t go any further into the images, but they look like ones I have used on my website.  When you publish a book – google it.  It is always interesting to see what comes up – does it embarrass you?  Perhaps you need to do some work to clean up your image.  Does it excite you?  Then others might find it interesting too.  Well done.

No 39 – Engage with your Fans, let your first commenters and subscribers know that you think they are wonderful and special to them.  They are your biggest supporters, support them back.  Treat these people to special offers and perks, or insider information – like the subscribers to my newsletter will get the book at a discounted price… the actual paperback copy!  Sound like a great idea?  You will have to sign up to find out  :)

 

No 40 – Create some Link Love – People like it when you quote them, or mention them online.  People special to me are Cassie Hart, Zee Southcombe, Kylie Somerville, T G Ayer, Melissa Pearl, Rachael Brooks, J A Huss, Ella James, Deborah Cumming.  They are all lovely people and I love to mention them when I can, and share their websites.  Send people emails to let them know that you loved them on your website!  They will get a kick out of it.   Also, creating a link to their name gives them notification through pingbacks that you have tagged them in your post. (Hey I love you guys!)

If you guys are enjoying this series, don’t forget to head over to Your Writer Platform and check out the other cool ideas they have for budding authors.

 

Body Consciousness and Mental Health

Heart Foundation Healthy eatingI have suffered from depression for a few years, diagnosed for the last three.  In the last 10 years, I have steadily increased in weight, to the point where I wasn’t happy with my body and it made me miserable.  And depression being what it is, is a vicious cycle and the more I got upset, the more my body weight increased.

I have been told by a few doctors that the antidepressants would increase my weight, but I didn’t seriously believe that I would pack on 12 kgs over 10 years – the last 8kgs in the last three years.  And no matter what I did, I couldn’t get over it, I couldn’t lose weight, no matter what I did.

The problem was, I wasn’t really doing anything!  I hadn’t cut back on my portions, I hadn’t cut back on the sugary treats, and I hadn’t cut back on the junkfood.  Whoops.  And because I am a comfort eater (I get upset, I find I am hungry – not for anything specific, just hungry), and therefore the more upset I got, the more I ate.

Diets were something that made me STARVE!  And I mean starve.  If I cut back on any food, I had a tendency to crave it.  Madly.  I have tried all sorts of diets, but nothing really worked, except for two very simple ones.

First is contraversial, its the Fasting Diet, which is actually the wrong name for it.  It is more about fasting – either for 16 hours or two days a week – and they don’t have to be two consecutive days.  And it wasn’t about going without food.  On your fasting days, you cut back the amount of calories you ate to 600 – so your could have breakfast, a couple of small snacks and a nice light dinner.  On the other days you eat normally, but I found that I was tending towards more healthier eating habits on my eating days, preferring vegetables instead of junkfood.

The second, and probably the easiest diet – although again that is the wrong term for it, was to cut out all junkfood for a month.  Junkfood was defined as:  Chocolate, cakes, biscuits, pastries, ice cream, fizzy, chippies (crisps), white bread and fast food (although we did agree that sushi didn’t count as fast food).  Since I have a savory tooth, rather than a sweet tooth, it was bloody hard, and I fretted about it the night before I started, but once I got into it, it wasn’t too bad.

But I did have to re-evaluate my snacking habits.  I have oat bars in my cupboard which had white chocolate in them, so they were out.  Chips, also my favourite snacks was out, as were crackers (generally baked pastry).  I did have ice cream, because I don’t drink a lot of milk, and I need calcium, there is a family history of osteoporosis in my family.  So I was having a milk shake in the evening with ice cream.  Ice cream is recommended by the Healthy Heart Foundation as a way of getting calcium, however only 1 scoop a day (and not a large scoop!!!)

To assist me, I kept a food diary and since I have been taking measurements of my body for as long as I can remember, I had a starting point.  Keeping the food diary is probably the single most motivator.  I was able to see what I was eating, when and how much water I was drinking in a day.  And I was able to compensate accordingly.  Now I drink on average a litre of water (no tea or coffee or cordial) a day.  I am not a big alcohol drinker, but I also recorded this when I did, because I was able to see if there was a pattern there as well.

Another small change I made, was cutting back on sugar.  I went from a teaspoon of sugar in my cup of tea, to a level teaspoon, and I use honey instead of sugar on my porridge in the morning.  Significantly, my sweet tooth has diminished, and I crave sugary foods less.

After 4 weeks, I noticed my body changing shape, and when I did my measurements at 4 weeks, I had lost, a total of 12 cms all up around my body.  That is quite significant.

One thing I didn’t do, was a lot of exercise.  I walk my son to school, and walk around a lot, but not a 30 minute heart pumping walk, so I can’t say that exercise helped, but I know that when I start the exercise, things will change and quickly.  At this point, I am focused on creating a habit, which can take 6 weeks, so at the end of September, I will concentrate on slowly adding exercise into my day.

I am proud of my efforts, and I can confirm that I have lost 2kgs, although I don’t have any scales, and haven’t weighed myself twice on the same scales, but the fact that I can physically see changes is the best part.

I encourage you to take a small step today to improve your lifestyle.  You don’t have to cut out junkfood, it might be just to cut back on sugar, or remove sweet treats from your diet, just one small step can get you started on a healthier lifestyle.

If you struggle with your weight, and want encouragement, feel free to contact me, through the contact form, and I will get back to you with some support.  Sometimes it is hard to reach out to those closest to you, but talking with a stranger can give you the boost you need.

Kicking the Taniwha to the Ground!

C Mead final logoYes, rather a dramatic start to my week, but I’m struggling against a brick wall, and my head is starting to hurt.  So I have decided to take a break from the Taniwha story for a while, and focus on a couple of other projects.

While I am sad to leave Curse of the Taniwha, I am relieved as well.

Sad, because I really wanted to write this story, it was burning so brightly within me, but I couldn’t get the story to evolve the way I wanted it too.  The taniwha was too nice, which isn’t a problem, but when you are doing a retelling of beauty and the beast, you need the beast to be rather aggressive.

I’m happy to leave it now, because during the weekend, we visited Totaranui, which was where I started my Abel Tasman Walk in May.  We stayed at this beautiful lodge called Ngarata Homestead, and I headed north along the remainder of the Abel Tasman track and found a lovely little loop track called Paterea Loop (at least I think that is what it was called.)  While I was walking, I had another little beauty brainwave for another story, involving Maori culture.  I am rather excited about this story, but it needs some incubating.  Will put it in my story incubator and see what comes up.

In the meantime, I haven’t given up on writing altogether.  I have the Cursed Love edits to make – which has been ticking along.  Lots of new dialogue, and after reading a Kris Pearson story over the weekend, needs more vavooom.

I also have Beautiful Stranger that I am working on.  This is an exciting story, which is bordering on erotic, but will have to wait and see.  It is based on the 12 steps of physical intimacy.  I’ve had fun with it so far, but I know that there is more to go, so it is a definite maybe.

So, this month, I am focusing on getting my edits done, then getting it back to my lovely editor for her perusal, and then I can confirm a possible publishing date.  Wow, excited, much!

As for the rest of the year, I have various plans in place, including Ice Planet rewrites – this is a romance, but a sweet romance.  I can really spice this up and make it hot and sizzling enough to melt the planet’s permafrost!  I also have a story that I plotted in May about Running Away – which will start a new series of NZ stories.

So, onward and upward for me  :)

Creating an Author Platform No 9

C Mead final logoHey there, well its been a busy week, with lots going on, including moving my website, so if you visited, and the site was down, then you probably struck at the moment when the move was occurring.  I apologise.  The reason for the switch?  I was on WordPress.com, and discovered that WordPress.org has the better options and features that I want to be able to include, so, with a little help from a wonderful friend called JJ McConachie over at NZ Booklovers, the site has been swapped over.

Yay!

So anyway, on with building our platforms.  I feel like I have quite a nice foundation going into this, and with Cursed Love back, all I need to do is edit it and get it rechecked, then find myself a couple of proofreaders!

Core ValuesNumber 31 – setting up Google Analytics.  At present, WordPress have an awesome feature (Site Stats in the Dashboard) that allows you to see where your traffic is coming from, what they are searching etc, but Google Analytics gives you more.  Most of the people who come to my site are searching for are Life, Writing and Depression.  This can change from day to day, depending on where and when people are checking on.  I have had erotic searched on my site, only because I have it tagged.  So you need to watch what you tag  :)

Number 32 Organise your email groups.  Not everyone will want to read paranormal romance.  Someone might want to read a science fiction romance, or fantasy romance.  Sorting my email groups into subgroups will allow me to do this.  Vertical Response allows me to name my list and allow people to sign up to it.  (By the way, I have one person signed up to my email group.  Yay!!!)

Number 33 – Throat Grabbing headlines.  Ok, so I am guilty of putting up bland titles like “When is it sleep time” and “Nothing to See Here…“.  If you want people to say “I just HAVE to read that article” then you need to have a “Jump up, grab them by the throat and shake them violently until they read it” headline.  Like – AphroInsomniac or Let’s play Blind Mans Bluff – with Swords!  Kim at Your Writer Platform suggests that you check out Jon Morrow’s 52 Headline Hacks.  There are some awesome ideas in there (yes, I have got my own copy) so watch this space.

Number 34 is Include a Call to Action at the end of your posts.  Get your subscribed members to do something – share an article, subscribe to your email list, leave a comment or question.  I have started doing this at the end of my blog posts, to see who (other than Zee and Cassie) out there is reading my blog.  But obviously I’m not asking the right questions.  Maybe I should put a post up full of errors and see who gets the most correct???

Seriously, let your subscribers to connect with you, either through comments or email, get them to share their enthusiasm for your work, because that is marketing your book.

Number 35 – Revamp your About Page.  This is one of the most visited pages on your website, or will be when you become published.  People want to know who you are and what you do.  As shown in my second Author Platform Post I have updated some information about me, but my about page looks rather… dull.  Fortunately, Kimberly has some awesome tips on her website entitled 11 Author Website Must Have Elements.  Go and check them out.

Next week, we will be looking into Share, Where, Fare, and Care  :)  See you next week.

Not creating a platform today!

C Mead final logoI did have a lovely Creating an Author Platform post all organised for today, but it appears that switching Catherine Mede to the new web host has managed to lose the post.  But that’s OK.  I will write up a new one and have it ready for next week.  For today, I am happy to announce that there are some changes coming in my life.  Last year I had to drop a lot of commitments because I couldn’t juggle so many different roles.  And I have just had to drop another one.  As of the end of the term, I will no longer be working as a teacher aide.  I loved working at the school, but in the last couple of weeks, I have been crying at the idea of having to go to work, and that isn’t a good space for me to be in.  So I have decided to finish up, although I have given them a few weeks notice.

Winter mornings

Winter mornings

Hopefully this means that I can focus on writing a bit more, but we will have to wait and see.  First, I have to get my house in order – cleaning and it is spring, so spring cleaning time is upon us, a good a time as any to get some junk chucked, rubbish binned and cupboards cleaned.

I hoped to have Curse of the Taniwha would be finished by the end of this month, however I have been working with my husband every available time.  In fact, this is the first Saturday in a very long time that I am not out working with him.  The reason for this is that my darling son turns 10 tomorrow.  10.  I can’t believe my baby is 10!  So I am taking him and a couple of mates to play mini-golf and go roller skating.  Looking forward to a little fun today.  Next weekend we are going to celebrate the 40th birthday of a deceased friend.  So another weekend free – yay!  Nice to finally relax, and hopefully once the school holidays come about, I am able to have some “me” time again.

So until next week (or Monday, depending on if I get my act together), have a lovely day.  :)

 

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