I don’t remember ever being comfortable in a large crowd of people, unless I knew them. Even at school, I often preferred to be on my own, than hang out in the common room. The only reason for this, is because deep down, I’m an introvert, which is someone who likes to spend time on their own, and gathers strength from their solitude, whereas an extrovert is a socialable person and they thrive on the energy of the people around them.
There have been moments in my life, where I have been an extrovert, especially when I worked at a bar. They were fun times, but I also knew that I could escape back home, to the safety of my flat, and the quietness that was there. The only reason I can put this down to is the fact that the patrons were familiar, I knew who they were and felt comfortable in their presence.
There was a party I went to in Christchurch – it was a University party that we attended after seeing the stage performance of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. The party was a Perversion party. Talk about information overload. I went with my first husband, my sister in law and her partner. They had a ball. I stayed in the kitchen watching the comings and goings, and was there to witness, probably the funniest moment I have ever seen. There was a knock on the door, and it was opened to discover the police standing there.
“Excuse me Ma’am, but we’ve had some complaints about the noise, would you mind turning the stereo down. If we come back again, we will be taking it.”
“No worries,” came the gruff voice. The policeman did a double take.
“Thank you sir,” he said and left. Yes, one of the guys had dressed up so convincingly as a woman, that he had fooled the policeman. Guess you had to be there.
Anyway, I prefer quiet. I work better in my own space, with my own things around me. If I have been in a large group, or work in a public place with lots of people, I will find that I am very tired, and need the peace to gain my equilibrium again.