I was going to post today about Perfectionism – as it was a recent discovery of mine, but instead, my lovely psychologist threw me a curve ball. She decided that we needed to work through one of my beliefs, and it was quite a tear jerking moment. I had to work through the thought that “I am not good enough”, which is something that I have lived with pretty much my entire life. We went through the arguments for and against (to work out what are facts and what is fiction) and often it can be hard to find some against’s, although unwittingly, I had done that myself. I got to a part about parenting – and I am not a good parent – and that started me off again.
So, my homework was to define “a good person” and “a good parent“.
That might seem easy – a good person is someone who is good right? but what is good?
I asked my husband, and he reckons that someone who is honest, has integrity and trustworthy. That’s all well and good, but what does that look like? I wanted a more rounded definition to take back to my psychologist. My Mum didn’t feel she was able to answer that question.
A good person – what do they do?
A good person is someone who is there for others, is selfless, kind, gentle, able to support and encourage someone in times of need. They are friendly, helpful, a good listener and someone with sound advice. Does this sound right to you? What do you consider to be a good person?
What about a good parent – what does one of them look like? What do they do?
For me, a good parent is someone who loves unconditionally, gives their time and patience to their child(ren), offers advice, help, but allows the child to make and learn from their own mistakes. They support and encourage their child(ren) in all that they do. They discipline them when they need to be, and teach them the basics to a healthy long living life of gratitude.
These are my own thoughts on the matter, but I am curious what other people think? What is your definitions of a good person and a good parent? If you don’t want to respond on here, feel free to email me at catherine(at)catherinemede(dot)com.
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