Changes within and without

Not only have I changed the look of my blog, but I have also made a small step within my own life.  For those of you who don’t know me very well, I have a nearly 6 year old boy, whom I love very much.  But I am not a mothering person, and I think that is why my boy is so well adjusted – I am not a smothering type – which surprised me!  I wanted a child more than anything, but once I had a baby in my arms, I realised that the reality wasn’t anything like the fantasy, hence no more children – well that and the fact that my beloved has said no more… but I digress.

On Sunday, youngest son and I were home alone as my beloved and his two boys were out, and I was playing in the computer (no surprise there).  I knew I had to restack wood in the shed, but was taking a few minutes for myself, when youngest son came in with the Junior Monopoly board and started setting it up.  I normally come up with excuses – no Mummy is too busy to play – but this time I didn’t.  What ensued was 10 minutes of fast paced action (helped by the lack of rules and the right amount of money) in which youngest son whipped my butt – to his credit, he didn’t gloat about it.  When finished, he told me about a treasure hunt that he had planned, and mapped out.  I had washing to hang out, which I did, then we went on a treasure hunt.  This was a two minute wonder, but we managed to interpret the swiggles on the map as the trampoline, the house and finally the X that marked the spot, and sure enough, there it was.  My son glowed for the rest of the day, and let me restack the wood shed and spend the rest of the day recovering.

I know most of you out there are saying, for goodness sake, he is your son – but you don’t know him.  He loves spending time on his own, and we do spend time with him reading and praying, so its not like I am too busy, but when I am writing, that is my time, and often I have to do this when he is around.  But over the weekend, I learnt another life lesson.  Ten minute with my son, will give me all the time in the world I need to get other jobs done.  And I was surprised at how much fun it was.  I need to spend more time getting down at his level and experiencing things as he experiences them.

So that is the first change that I have made.  Another was that yesterday  I said I would do my themes on Friends, but I have decided today, that I want this story to be more about focusing on yourself and learning lessons within your own life, and upon reflection, I have come up with 8 new Life Lessons that relate to me and the experiences I have had in life.  Here are a few things I have learnt:

  • Laughing will lighten the darkest day
  • Accept responsibility for your own actions (and if necessary, apologise genuinely)
  • Stop trying to control the uncontrollable and you will be free.
  • Learn to appreciate your own company and you will never be lonely
  • Stop trying so hard.  Just be yourself and do your best.  If you want to push yourself, do it in manageable measures.
  • Make time for yourself
  • Stop every now and again and give yourself a break (which kind of ties in with the one above!)
  • Don’t fill silence with noise, one day you will appreciate the quiet.

So I think that this story needs to be more about Sara’s personal life lessons rather than relying on friends.  So instead the two truths I am going to focus on this week are – Laughing will lighten the darkest day (because the darkness is creeping in again) and Learn to appreciate your own company and you will never be lonely.


4 thoughts on “Changes within and without

  1. My mother reckons kids have an emotional tank, and when kept topped up, they actually require very little of you. I find that with Lauren. She always lets me know when she needs topping up and if I respond to her, she’ll then let me have the time I need to get other stuff done.

    Ivy on the other hand has a leak in her tank… it almost never gets filled 😉

    • Thanks Cassie, I know about the emotional tank – but it is nice to have it re-affirmed.

      This afternoon we are having a clean up in Billy’s room, and tonight we are building a railway track in there… will be interesting!

  2. I love this post. It is so true though. 10 or 20 minutes here and there will not throw my day completely out of wack. It actually helps me be more productive and he interrupts me less.

    I love your life lessons…they are ones I am trying to implement as well 🙂

    • Hey Alisha, yip, spending time with the youngest has its benefits, and I am growing because of it.

      Those truths are just some of the ones that I have, I have really enjoyed finding some, remembering others – I hope that they translate as well into the story!

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